Prioritize Relationships That Matter Most

 

 

 

Finding true balance in life doesn’t just happen because you want it to. 

There’s a lot of work to do and time to be invested. Why should you do it?

 

Because you deserve to be happy!

 

In today’s post, I’m sharing information about Relationships that is addressed in more detail in my FREE Mini “Balance Inventory” Wellness Workbook

 

In our very busy lives, our Relationships are just one component where we need to have the right balance in order to be happy.  Not only do your friends, family, and loved ones deserve time with you, they deserve to spend time with a happy, healthy, peaceful you – with your BEST you.

As our lifestyles and our environments change, this *right* balance will also change.  For instance, if you are young and dedicated to growing your career, you may be willing to sacrifice going out with your friends in order to put your best foot forward professionally.  

If you have been working hard for years to be better financially prepared to start a family, you will likely re-evaluate your work schedule once you start your family.  

It is only natural to move through these stages, but it is important to periodically run through a list of questions to make sure that you actually know what your current priorities are!  Believe it or not, some people find themselves SO busy that they run on autopilot and years can pass by in what seems like the blink of an eye.

To make sure you are prioritizing the relationships that matter most to you at all times throughout your life, write down the answers to the following questions.

 

1)  What are the most important relationships in your life?  

 

2)  How much quality time are you spending doing what is most important to you?

 

3)  Is there any stress or strain going on with anyone or anything you listed in #1?

 

4)  Are you happy with your job or chosen career path?  What would you change?

 

5)  Do work demands overly interfere with your family and personal relationships?  

 

To read more about achieving balance and get more self-assessment questions related to your Body, your Mind, and your Environment, download my FREE Workbook here.

 

Natural Cures for Exhaustion

It’s Friday again. Chances are, you feel drained. Maybe even stressed, tired, or burned out? It’s inevitable given the way we multitask to balance work, family, friends, and other commitments. By taking stock in what you are asking yourself to do in a day, you are taking the first step towards saying goodbye to exhaustion and start feeling better. Here are a few common causes and cures of exhaustion that could change your life.

1) Your breath. Most of us are shallow, rapid breathers. This type of breathing can be caused by poor posture or stiff muscles and can lead to poor oxygen supply making us feel slow, fatigued, and exhausted! To practice deep breathing, start by lying on your back in a comfortable position. Put your hands on your belly underneath your rib cage. The tips of your two middle fingers should be barely touching. Breathe in fully through the nose & feel your chest expand — you will notice that your fingertips move apart slightly as your chest expands with air. For best results, practice deep breathing every day for a couple of minutes. Over time, you will notice a rise in energy levels.

2) Lack of connection. Do you remember your last beach vacation? How did you feel as you sat back in your chair looking out at the ocean? Relaxed, huh? There is something about a connection with nature that makes us feel less drained and less anxious. In our day-to-day lives, especially now that winter is lurking, we may go for days without seeing the light of day. We spend our entire day inside buildings with artificial light. As often as you can, talk an early morning walk. If that is impossible, get yourself outdoors for a fifteen to twenty minute walk at lunch time. Pay attention to the scenery or to your breathing — whatever works. Do not read your email on your smartphone; that’s defeating your purpose of connecting to nature!

3) No motivation. We all need a sense of meaning and a sense of joy to ground us. Getting caught up in the grind can be really depleting if you don’t have something that brings you happiness to balance it out. If you identify with this, I want to encourage you to write a few things down. Start off by listing the things that cause you to feel stressed and disconnected from the world. It could be a strained relationship with a family member, a recent break-up or job loss. Whatever it is, write it down & also write down your reaction to the stressful situation. Next, write down the things in your life that give you happiness and satisfaction. This will likely be a much shorter list, but your job is to start doing more of the things that make you feel connected and happy and less of the things that make you feel stressed and miserable. You might find that waking up early for that yoga class is worth it even if you are tired because you leave feeling energized and accomplished. Whatever it is, follow the positives and you are guaranteed that little spark you are seeking.

Comfort Food: Why Are You Seeking Comfort?

Millions of people use food as a way of seeking comfort from pain or hurt in their lives. Most are doing it without even realizing it.

Do you find yourself sitting at home, alone & bored watching TV and eating when you aren’t hungry? Do you suffer from insomnia and find yourself getting up during the night & cleaning out the pantry? They don’t call it comfort food for nothing!

In order to break through this unhealthy behavior, you have to dig deep and figure out what is really eating at you! It may be worry about something going on in your life or someone close to you. It may be an issue stemming from childhood that you never worked through and hoped to bury. You have to work your way through the pain in order to come out on the other side. This hurt and discomfort you are experiencing is good — it is showing you that you are due for a change.

You may have tried dieting in the past many times with no success. Don’t beat yourself up about past failures. You weren’t ready to make a change or you needed help! Sometimes the true difference between failure and success is getting the help you need and deserve!

I want to help you by giving you a FREE resource that you can use to finally make the change you’ve been longing for and end your feelings of hopelessness once and for all.

Visit my website and click to download our FREE Wellness Workbook here: goo.gl/qKo3j

The Balancing Act: Take Inventory

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Before you can be balanced, you’ve got to figure out what you’ve got on your plate. For some of us, it may be straightforward.  For others, not so much.  We’ve got to make sure our minds and bodies are able to balance what our relationships and the world around us is demanding.  Grab a pen and paper or start a new document and take a personal inventory by answering these questions below.  Don’t think about it too much.  Our first impressions are often spot-on.

Body.  Is your body as strong as you need it to be?  Have you been trying to drop a few pounds (or more) for the past several years but can’t seem to do it?  Are you limited by physical pain?  Are you limited by an injury?  Are you aware of any chronic disease suffered by yourself or a family member such as high cholesterol or diabetes?  If so, is your disease well-managed?

Mind.  Are you able to think clearly, or are you overwhelmed by racing thoughts?  Are you able to concentrate?  How is your memory?  Have you ever tried to meditate or do yoga?  If yes, were you able to relax or were you flooded by outside demands and responsibilities?

Work and Relationships.  Are you honoring the relationships that are most important to you?  Does your partner, spouse, or children tell you that you don’t spend enough time with them?  Are you worried that your pets are feeling neglected?  Are you at odds with anyone & wish to mend fences?  And what about work… Are you doing what you love or just working to get by?  Are your work demands taking so much from you that you are neglecting your important relationships?

Environment.  Are you living in a place that makes you happy?  How is the quality of air you are breathing?  Are you subjecting yourself to injury or disease by your living or working conditions?  Do you make an effort to protect our natural resources through conservation, recycling, or some other effort?  Do you buy locally grown fruits and vegetables?  Are your eating habits in sync with your core beliefs?

Now you’ve got your inventory, and you are ready for the next step.  Figuring out your personal formula for successful balance.